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Sporadic photos and notes from a Psyche-midwife, cheerleader, anthropologist--aka clinical social worker in therapy practice. Photos are usually mine except for those of historical events/famous people. Music relevant to the daily topic is often included in a web video embedded below the blog. Click on highlighted links in the copy to get to source or supplemental material. For contact information, see my website @ janasvoboda.com or click on the button to the right below. Join in the conversation.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Three Things I learned from the New York Times Sunday Magazine, Page 11

Oh the joys of periodicals.  So much information, and no messy fingerprints on the literal (puns intended) pages.  These are just a nibble of the riches avaliable on page 11.\

For example.  Did you EXTREME IRONING is this season's PLANKING? Watch and learn, young grasshopper.


OR that Ryan Gosling is Hot Sexy Neuroscience Delivery Man? 
http://neuroscientistryangosling.tumblr.com/Anjd

And in our final Male-biased page of peculiaities, there's an advertisement for a newALL BOYS All THE TIME  Manny Agency, in case your chitlins have had enough of the Mary Poppins and are ready for some Morrie Swartzers coodinating the play dates.

Oh, it 's a rich world out there...

Monday, February 20, 2012

Your brain on love


One who wants to do good, knocks at the gate; one who loves, finds the door open.
Rabindranath Tagore

There are all kinds of ways to love and all kinds of reasons to do it.

I just saw one of the best films I've seen in years.  I've embedded it for you here.  Thanks to A (who fiercely loves) for the tip.                          ---Jana


Monday, February 13, 2012

Hate Valentine's Day? Read This..

Corvallis's First Alternative co-operative's a great place to fall in love with healthy eating, local foods and community sustainability.  They also publish a monthly newsletter, where I read this wonderful column by staffer Dave Williams.  He agreed I could reprint it here for those of you who don't get The Thymes.  Although it's aimed at singles, there's great advice for all of us this Valentine's day:


It’s once again time for the holiday that so many people seem to loathe.  Whether you’re lonely, just had a breakup, allergic to chocolate (I’m so sorry for you), or despise sappy movies, just remember: you define how you celebrate your holidays… and not just your holidays, but all of your days in general. You’re writing your own calendar here, folks, so if you don’t like a tradition or ritual, create your own and enjoy every moment of it!

I’m going through some huge transitions in my own personal life, but have decided to embrace the positive. I’m striving to show my gratitude and appreciation to all of the lovely, lovely souls I like to keep so close to me as opposed to closing myself off from them. This goes for all of my relationships and not just my love life. I am attempting to keep an open heart and mind this year, and I feel it necessary to show my love and excitement for my friends and family this Valentine’s more than to potential romances. I say, for those of us who are single, let’s send “Pal-entines” and appreciate the many, many wonderful people in our lives who make us smile. Let’s embrace our future with these people and learn to laugh and enjoy even the sappiest of holidays together rather than dreading them, or feeling any sort of inadequacy. We are all bright entities. If you are single, then I want you to take a moment to feel completely empowered.  Feel your inner, personal strength and energy that is completely unique to your spirit, and your spirit alone.  Send yourself a love letter. Learn to love yourself in new and unexpected ways, for previously undiscovered reasons, and then do the same for your closest friends or family members. Send postcards. Send small, homemade gifts. Make everyone you know a mix CD and let them hear the music that keeps you dancing throughout the day… the music that touches and moves you. Love everyone, including your ex-partners and antagonists. Transform your negative relationships into positive and ongoing experiences. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Do your best. Keep everyone, absolutely everyone, close to your heart. If we do this together, we will truly feel love on even the most seemingly isolating holidays of the year.

Love life.

Dave Williams,
Outreach Assistant
(reprinted with permission from the Feb 2012 edition of First Alternative Thymes)

Friday, February 3, 2012

This February, Be a Matchmaker

February is the longest shortest month, and half way through it's all about Love.  Until Feb.6th, you can sign up to be a cupid of a different caliber by applying to be a literary angel.  Launched last year in the UK, World Book Night crossed the pond this year to help Americans share the love of reading.  On April 23rd thousands of Americans will deliver popular books to non and low readers across the US.  Applicants receive 20 copies of a novel to deliver.  Choose from a list of 30 titles,  including Maya Angelou's I Know Why The Cage Bird Sings, Stephen King's The Stand, Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible and Khaled Hosseini's The Kite Runner.  I'll be delivering Sherman Alexie's latest:  The Absolute True Diary of a Part-Time Indian.

The requirements:  Know the book you are giving, and have outlets for getting it to non or low readers (check with your local youth clubs, schools  and shelters-- they'd likely be very welcoming!).

What a great way to spread the love of reading to your community.  The NEA found in a mega-study that reading, especially reading for pleasure, is down significantly in the first decade of the millenium.  The year of the study less than half of all 18-24 year olds had read a single book for pleasure.  Reading has many benefits.  It stimulates your imagination, opens up new worlds otherwise inaccessible, improves vocabulary and builds compassion.  Spread the love.

Remember, there's just three days left to register.  Go to the World Book Night website for details.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Happy Groundhog Day! Shadow Exploration

What's the emotional forecast for 2012?  Only the Shadow knows...

While Punxsutawney Phil figures out whether the US will finally have a winter, the rest of us can check into our own shadow to see whether we can find some light in it.

Philosopher and analyst Carl Jung (whose own shadow is featured in A Dangerous Method) introduced pop culture to the age-old theme of Shadow, that denied but powerful undercurrent of Self.  Shadow is the composite of all parts that are disowned by Persona --the Self we present to the world and self), whether from our own or others' disapproval.  Shadow can be Dark, such as murderous thoughts, or Light (our creativity we distrust or that's been tamped down or ridiculed, for instance).  Jung believed that there was nothing we could perceive that was not within us, and Shadow is most easily seen in what irritates us in others.  That irritation is a signal that we wish we ourselves had more, or less, of that same quality-- though in the former case, not necessarily in the quantity we are seeing.  The polite Midwesterner may show intolerance for the boldness of the New Yorker; the homophobic may be battling their own unacceptable same-sex desires.  Both are examples of the unacknowledged Shadow.

"There is strong shadow where there is much light."  --Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

The unmanageable/unimaginable Shadow limits, but the integrated Shadow frees.  When we can accept that we are capable of darkness, we have more compassion and understanding for human complexity.  When we throw our own darkness into conscious awareness, it is less likely to be leaked unexpectedly and disruptively through us as individuals or as a society.  We can own it, and only then are we more in charge of it than it will be of us.

If you'd like to participate in a Spring workshop on Shadow, contact me at infoATjansvobodaDOTcom.

Integrating the shadow:  an experiential workshop (Date TBA)
Each of us is born whole and undamaged.  Throughout our lives we hear messages, both intentional and not, telling us that some of what we bring into the world is unacceptable.  We reject these aspects and in doing so develop limiting self-aversion.  We may set aside some of our gifts and talents in the process, hiding them so well we no longer notice or believe they exist.  It’s like living in the basement of a large and beautiful home, unaware there are other rooms.

How do we reclaim what resonates within us, realize what’s precious but locked away, and move towards individuation and wholeness?

Using art, writing and visualization we will bring the shadow to the surface and release its healing potential.  We’ll explore concepts and implications of the personal and collective shadow in media and culture, and discover avenues of integrating Shadow in self and community.

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

January Cleaning Up-- revelations of Icelandic poem and first letters

A little deconstruction for those of you who played the poet games.
The Icelandic poem was by the prolific and brilliant author and songwriter Sjón.  It's a beauty.

(night of the lemon)
(night)

glittering
mist from the sea
the streetlights grew bigger
a lantern shone in every drop
on my spectacles
we sat out on the balconies
and sliced lemons
threw the slices away
so they covered the street
glittering
eye to eye
in the night

(of the lemon)

The first letter poems are (P) Prayer, by Galway Kinnell
and (WIMJ) What's In my Journal by William Stafford.  Both are worth looking up.

And now we go back to our regular programming.  But first, listen to Kinnell's counsel to a student, despondent over a broken heart.  There's something there for all sorts of broken hearts.

Monday, January 30, 2012

January 31st Challenge: Le Grand Finale'-- 10en20!

 Oh, it's been a good ride, chitlins.
    We made it 30 out of 31 days, enough to please the Wabi-Sabi gods, who are offended when we pretend to approach perfection.
     I'm looking forward to sending your prizes, so please email your address (infoATjanasvobodaDOTcom) if you haven't already.
    For the final day of our creativity challenge, write 10 poems in twenty minutes.  Don't obsess except about beating the clock.  If you don't want to post all of them. leave what you will in the comment section.  If you're just feeling shy, e them all to me if you like and I'll keep them virtual and unseen.

 ----------------drum roll----------------------THE TITLES-------------------drum roll--------------------

1)  Bad Food
2)  Before I Was Married
3)  My Secret Superpower
4)  Shower Song
5)  Splendor in the Mass
6)  Remote Vibe
7)  Bug in a Jar
8)  Test Your Mettle
9)  Us and the Raft
10)  Icelandic Poetry

I'll miss your creativity.  If any of you want to continue on a yahoo group, e me and we'll get it going on.  Play is an underrated virtue.

Jana

Sunday, January 29, 2012

January 30th Challenge


Titles for the 10en20 are going a little slow.  Hope you found some Sunday creativity.
I'll hold out for 10en20 for our finale' day on Tuesday. 

Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true.  --Robert Brault

Here's an easy Monday challenge:  Practice some uncommon courtesy.
Looking forward to hearing what you did.

Lots of resources linked below should you need a little guidance.

Jimmy Daggett's daily kindness challenge blog (not updated in a while, but scroll on down when you get there for good ideas).

February 13-19th is National Acts of Kindness week.  Gear up here.  

From last year's challenge list:  Be generous (it needn't be with money).

100 Kindness ideas from another Kind Blog.

Another list from LifeHack.


Today's video:

Friday, January 27, 2012

January 28 Challenge: Design a Restaurant (and prep for Sunday challenge)

Canned biscuit  et al special:
If this is on the menu, I won't be there.
Here's a free-ranging way to exercise your imagination this weekend:  design your fantasy eatery.  It can be anything from a coffee-shop to a five-star, and you can go as far with it as you want.  What's the name?  The menu?  The decor and the vibe?  What will it be known for and who will be a loyalist customer?

ALSO:  HEAD'S UP FOR SUNDAY'S CHALLENGE, which requires a little advance planning.  We'll be doing 10en20s-- ten poems in twenty minutes.  Sounds like pressure, but in a way, it's not at all-- because if you get one you like out of it, gravy!  A good poem in 20 minutes.  And if you hate them all, you've just exorcised ten bad poems and wasted very little time in the offing.  The poems are meant to be short, three or four lines.  But we're not sticklers for rules, as long as you're honest about the time limit.    Submit your titles in the comment section below or e me through the contact link.
My title:  Bad Food.  

We need nine more.  If they aren't on by noonish Sunday, I'll supplement.

Thursday, January 26, 2012

January 27 Challenge: Fragment Poem

This one is stolen straight from the old poet game I poetrix'd on the web year ago.  Thanks to St. Louie poet/musician Chris King for letting me cut and paste for today's challenge.

charmed, i'm sure
Orhan Veli, the Turkish poet through whom Jana found me (and eventually
Stefene), died with an unfinished poem found wrapped around his toothbrush.
His title was "Love Parade" and it's just that, a parade of all of his
lovers. (Of course, the song we wrote from it is called "Love Poem Found
Wrapped Around the Dead Poet's Toothbrush", couldn't resist.)


Anyway, several lines and almost one whole verse are lost because of
wrinkles and stains from the poem being wrapped around that damn toothbrush.
This is all of the verse from the stanza about the third lover that Defne
Halman and I could translate:


....... go out
....... hang out in the neighborhood
....... in spite of
....... side by side, the walls would be written
....... in the places of fire


So the game is to write a poem about your third lover, however you want to
count them, making use of these pieces of language. The tripple gainer
version would be a five line poem where the lines end with these phrases
(that's how Orhan Veli reads), though I may take the belly flop option and
just use them some way some how in a poem of a different length. Have fun!


Chris

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

January 26th-- Exhuming that Obscure Object of Desire

new game.  fun with friends but virtual will do.  from A Book Of Surrealist Games, and I encourage you to support our tenuous economy and dirthery of poetry by purchasing one for all those you love.

someone, name an object.
ok-- not that i don't trust you but for expediancy,
i will name the object, by looking about this room.

the object is:

candle-less silver candlestick


now, in 15 minutes or less, answer the following questions:

1. what is the weather of the object?

2. what religion does it follow?

3. what language does the object speak?

4. what is the secret desire of the object?

5. what is the recurring nightmare of the object?

6. where should the object be placed on the woman, sleeping?

7. describe the temperament of the object on tuesdays.
herrings and accordions, indeed

8. how has the object failed?

9. how does the object instruct us in living?

10. who despises the object?

11. who provides steady companionship?

12. why is the object afraid?

13. with whom is the object competing?

14. what is the object's favorite treat?

15. who pleads the case for the object?

16. what laws are broken by the object?

17. what is the sin of the object?

18. how does the heart of the object get restless?

19. how does one befriend the object?

20. how does one kill the object?



Tuesday, January 24, 2012

January 25 Challenge: Create Your Character for Our Play


Surprise:
We're writing a play, plot to be announced as it thickens.

Your job:  create a character and give a brief but clear description.  Then write 3-5 lines of dialogue for your character, with stage directions as appropriate.

1 week left to get your January challenges in!

Monday, January 23, 2012

January 24th Challenge: Be a Vague Scientist

...and proud.

 Did I mention (like, 300 times now) that I am an info junkie?  Thanks to the web, I think my periodicals are currently down to less than 2 dozen subscriptions.

One of my favorites is the UK's New Scientist-- the weekly "People"-type magazine for geeks, full of byte-size articles one can peruse in those 5 minutes, say,  between appointments.  New Scientist was recently lovingly (!) parodied by cartoonist Stephen Collins in London's  Guardian newspaper.  I am sure they will let me know if I am violating any fair use by showing you the fab strip here:Stephen Collins: Stephen Collins: Vague scientist
Did you know Starfish are the chief source of global warming?
To be on the safe side, at least visit Collin's or the Guardian website and heck, subscribe or patronize their advertisers or something.

Right, the challenge.
In Vague Scientist Style, list a few sketchy headlines, give an abstract for an ersatz study, explain some phenomena ala Dr. Science (He Knows More Than You Do!),  etc.  You get the vague drift, eh?

And while you are at it, how about joining me in a PR blitz to bring New Scientist production editor Mick O'Hare to this part of the pond?  He's got lots of books to sell full of fascinating scientific odditiy ponderings (see list below), and he's a really good guy and I owe him a present which I can't seem to get together to mail to the UK.  So bring him here, and maybe while he's at it, he can explain to me exactly why those Kardashian woman are so famous. Now THERE's a mystery.

Titles worth perusal, edited by ex-rugby turned science reporter O'Hare, cut and pasted from that font of truthiness Wikepedia.  These make great Groundhog day gifts.
  • Does Anything Eat Wasps? and 101 Other Questions, translated into German language
  • How to Fossilise Your Hamster: And Other Amazing Experiments for the Armchair Scientist
  • Why Don't Penguins' Feet Freeze?: And 114 Other Questions
  • The Last Word: Vol 1, Mick O'Hare, illustrated by Spike Gerrell
  • The Last Word: More Questions and Answers on Everyday Science Vol 2, Mick O'Hare, illustrated by Spike Gerrell
  • Do Polar Bears Get Lonely? And 101 Other Intriguing Science Questions
  • How to Make a Tornado: The strange and wonderful things that happen when scientists break free
  • Why Can't Elephants Jump? And 113 More Science Questions Answered
PR nudges could be sent to:  The Person In Charge of Mick And His Schedule, c/o info@profilebooks.co.uk

I lost at pinball tonight.  Hey, all that shrieky lackering was very distracting.  Cheer me up with some entries in the comment section, will ya?
Off to the salt mills,
Jana

Sunday, January 22, 2012

January 23rd Challenge: Mindless Monday-- Introduce a New Slang Word

How long does it take to get a new expression into the daily lexicon?  Seems like only yesterday I'd never heard of chillaxing, LOLing, and bromances.   And if I never heard them again, that would be ok too...
Bill:  no square-ass.

My dad, a bit of a Beatnik back in the day, claimed this fall to have been the genius behind the phrase "square-ass," which I suppose meant anyone not as hip as he was.  I don't think it quite made it as big as ROLF, but it's got a good ring to it.

What's your word?  What's it mean?  Drop it into conversation, status or tweets today.  Super bonus points if anyone repeats it later. 

Hope it's qual jinks (excellent material).

Jana

January 22 Challenge: Micro Fiction

I'm slogging off to a late start,  and here I was going to give you something a bit more toothy for a lazy, rainy (at least here) Sunday.

Give it a shot anyway.  And I'll make Monday easy so you can catch up.

Write a Micro Short Story.  A paragraph to a page is all you need, but it's a short story, so it should have a plot in there somewhere: a little conflict, character, theme, what have you.

If you need inspiration, there are several microfiction web sites as well as books.  I'm a fan of the Flash Fiction series, edited by James Thomas et al.  Need more guidance?  This site has good information even if a really lousy webpage aesthetic (sorry, bud).

January 22 post: Count Your Blessings

Hmm-- I'm slacking a bit

Saturday, January 21, 2012

January 21st Challenge: Name Your Superpower


Congratulations!  You're a superhero.  What's your power, name, costume?

 (It's Brevity Day).