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Sporadic photos and notes from a Psyche-midwife, cheerleader, anthropologist--aka clinical social worker in therapy practice. Photos are usually mine except for those of historical events/famous people. Music relevant to the daily topic is often included in a web video embedded below the blog. Click on highlighted links in the copy to get to source or supplemental material. For contact information, see my website @ janasvoboda.com or click on the button to the right below. Join in the conversation.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Three Things I learned from the New York Times Sunday Magazine, Page 11

Oh the joys of periodicals.  So much information, and no messy fingerprints on the literal (puns intended) pages.  These are just a nibble of the riches avaliable on page 11.\

For example.  Did you EXTREME IRONING is this season's PLANKING? Watch and learn, young grasshopper.


OR that Ryan Gosling is Hot Sexy Neuroscience Delivery Man? 
http://neuroscientistryangosling.tumblr.com/Anjd

And in our final Male-biased page of peculiaities, there's an advertisement for a newALL BOYS All THE TIME  Manny Agency, in case your chitlins have had enough of the Mary Poppins and are ready for some Morrie Swartzers coodinating the play dates.

Oh, it 's a rich world out there...

Monday, February 20, 2012

Your brain on love


One who wants to do good, knocks at the gate; one who loves, finds the door open.
Rabindranath Tagore

There are all kinds of ways to love and all kinds of reasons to do it.

I just saw one of the best films I've seen in years.  I've embedded it for you here.  Thanks to A (who fiercely loves) for the tip.                          ---Jana


Monday, February 13, 2012

Hate Valentine's Day? Read This..

Corvallis's First Alternative co-operative's a great place to fall in love with healthy eating, local foods and community sustainability.  They also publish a monthly newsletter, where I read this wonderful column by staffer Dave Williams.  He agreed I could reprint it here for those of you who don't get The Thymes.  Although it's aimed at singles, there's great advice for all of us this Valentine's day:


It’s once again time for the holiday that so many people seem to loathe.  Whether you’re lonely, just had a breakup, allergic to chocolate (I’m so sorry for you), or despise sappy movies, just remember: you define how you celebrate your holidays… and not just your holidays, but all of your days in general. You’re writing your own calendar here, folks, so if you don’t like a tradition or ritual, create your own and enjoy every moment of it!

I’m going through some huge transitions in my own personal life, but have decided to embrace the positive. I’m striving to show my gratitude and appreciation to all of the lovely, lovely souls I like to keep so close to me as opposed to closing myself off from them. This goes for all of my relationships and not just my love life. I am attempting to keep an open heart and mind this year, and I feel it necessary to show my love and excitement for my friends and family this Valentine’s more than to potential romances. I say, for those of us who are single, let’s send “Pal-entines” and appreciate the many, many wonderful people in our lives who make us smile. Let’s embrace our future with these people and learn to laugh and enjoy even the sappiest of holidays together rather than dreading them, or feeling any sort of inadequacy. We are all bright entities. If you are single, then I want you to take a moment to feel completely empowered.  Feel your inner, personal strength and energy that is completely unique to your spirit, and your spirit alone.  Send yourself a love letter. Learn to love yourself in new and unexpected ways, for previously undiscovered reasons, and then do the same for your closest friends or family members. Send postcards. Send small, homemade gifts. Make everyone you know a mix CD and let them hear the music that keeps you dancing throughout the day… the music that touches and moves you. Love everyone, including your ex-partners and antagonists. Transform your negative relationships into positive and ongoing experiences. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Do your best. Keep everyone, absolutely everyone, close to your heart. If we do this together, we will truly feel love on even the most seemingly isolating holidays of the year.

Love life.

Dave Williams,
Outreach Assistant
(reprinted with permission from the Feb 2012 edition of First Alternative Thymes)

Friday, February 3, 2012

This February, Be a Matchmaker

February is the longest shortest month, and half way through it's all about Love.  Until Feb.6th, you can sign up to be a cupid of a different caliber by applying to be a literary angel.  Launched last year in the UK, World Book Night crossed the pond this year to help Americans share the love of reading.  On April 23rd thousands of Americans will deliver popular books to non and low readers across the US.  Applicants receive 20 copies of a novel to deliver.  Choose from a list of 30 titles,  including Maya Angelou's I Know Why The Cage Bird Sings, Stephen King's The Stand, Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible and Khaled Hosseini's The Kite Runner.  I'll be delivering Sherman Alexie's latest:  The Absolute True Diary of a Part-Time Indian.

The requirements:  Know the book you are giving, and have outlets for getting it to non or low readers (check with your local youth clubs, schools  and shelters-- they'd likely be very welcoming!).

What a great way to spread the love of reading to your community.  The NEA found in a mega-study that reading, especially reading for pleasure, is down significantly in the first decade of the millenium.  The year of the study less than half of all 18-24 year olds had read a single book for pleasure.  Reading has many benefits.  It stimulates your imagination, opens up new worlds otherwise inaccessible, improves vocabulary and builds compassion.  Spread the love.

Remember, there's just three days left to register.  Go to the World Book Night website for details.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Happy Groundhog Day! Shadow Exploration

What's the emotional forecast for 2012?  Only the Shadow knows...

While Punxsutawney Phil figures out whether the US will finally have a winter, the rest of us can check into our own shadow to see whether we can find some light in it.

Philosopher and analyst Carl Jung (whose own shadow is featured in A Dangerous Method) introduced pop culture to the age-old theme of Shadow, that denied but powerful undercurrent of Self.  Shadow is the composite of all parts that are disowned by Persona --the Self we present to the world and self), whether from our own or others' disapproval.  Shadow can be Dark, such as murderous thoughts, or Light (our creativity we distrust or that's been tamped down or ridiculed, for instance).  Jung believed that there was nothing we could perceive that was not within us, and Shadow is most easily seen in what irritates us in others.  That irritation is a signal that we wish we ourselves had more, or less, of that same quality-- though in the former case, not necessarily in the quantity we are seeing.  The polite Midwesterner may show intolerance for the boldness of the New Yorker; the homophobic may be battling their own unacceptable same-sex desires.  Both are examples of the unacknowledged Shadow.

"There is strong shadow where there is much light."  --Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

The unmanageable/unimaginable Shadow limits, but the integrated Shadow frees.  When we can accept that we are capable of darkness, we have more compassion and understanding for human complexity.  When we throw our own darkness into conscious awareness, it is less likely to be leaked unexpectedly and disruptively through us as individuals or as a society.  We can own it, and only then are we more in charge of it than it will be of us.

If you'd like to participate in a Spring workshop on Shadow, contact me at infoATjansvobodaDOTcom.

Integrating the shadow:  an experiential workshop (Date TBA)
Each of us is born whole and undamaged.  Throughout our lives we hear messages, both intentional and not, telling us that some of what we bring into the world is unacceptable.  We reject these aspects and in doing so develop limiting self-aversion.  We may set aside some of our gifts and talents in the process, hiding them so well we no longer notice or believe they exist.  It’s like living in the basement of a large and beautiful home, unaware there are other rooms.

How do we reclaim what resonates within us, realize what’s precious but locked away, and move towards individuation and wholeness?

Using art, writing and visualization we will bring the shadow to the surface and release its healing potential.  We’ll explore concepts and implications of the personal and collective shadow in media and culture, and discover avenues of integrating Shadow in self and community.